My New Book: Adventures in Opting Out

I came up with the idea for this book while hiking the mountain in my backyard. I wanted to share the truth about what it really takes to opt out of expectations, change paths, and live a more intentional life. Here’s the synopsis:

We all follow our own path in life. At least, that’s what we’re told. The reality is that many of us either do what is expected of us, or follow the invisible but well-worn paths that lead to what is culturally acceptable. For some, those paths are fine—even great. But they leave some of us feeling disconnected from ourselves and what we really want. When that discomfort finally outweighs the fear of trying something new, we’re ready to opt out.

After going through this process many times, I have found there is an incredible parallel between taking a different path in life and the psychological work it takes to summit a mountain—especially when you decide to go solo. In Adventures in Opting Out, I’m offering a trail map to help you with both. As you’ll see, reaching the first viewpoint can be easy — and it offers a glimpse of what you’re walking toward. Climbing to the summit for the full view is worth it. But in the space between those two peaks you will enter a world completely unknown to you, and that is the most difficult part of the path to navigate. 

With guidance and advice, drawn from my own journey and stories of others, you’ll have all the encouragement and insight you’ll need to take the path less traveled and create the life you want. Just step up to the trailhead and expect it to be an adventure.


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If you’re as excited about this book as I am, I hope you’ll consider pre-ordering Adventures in Opting Out. Pre-orders help bookstores decide whether or not to carry your book, and help publishers know how many copies to print. It’s also a vote with your dollars, and a way to signal that you believe in an author—which helps them write more books in the future. There’s no “one right way” to pre-order. Through your local bookstores, online retailers, etc. It all counts. After you pre-order your copy, fill out the form on this page so I can send you something new every second week this summer. I’m calling it your adventure supplies!

Fill out the form with your first name, email address and order number now, to access the following:

Introduction to the book (in audio + PDF format)
Four-part “Field Notes” audio series I will deliver bi-weekly throughout the summer :)
Access to 3 x virtual book tour events in Sept
PDF workbook of exercises + reflection questions
Lists of other content to enjoy while you wait!

If you have any issues filling out the form or accessing the content, email me!

*Also, we are still waiting to hear from publishers in the UK and Australia, so I will send you more information + release dates as soon as I have it!


“Cait Flanders takes inspiration from the mountains of her native British Columbia along the path to personal growth. [She] uses the metaphor of preparing for a long hike to show how people assemble the mental tools needed to embark on a life-altering journey.”

Publishers Weekly

“2020 has been filled with all sorts of intentional and unintentional adventures in opting out, and Flanders offers a sturdy and flexible framework to navigate whatever path you are currently on.”

—Mary Jo, Buyer for Powell’s Books (40 New Books for Fall 2020)

Adventures in Opting Out isn’t a simple how-to full of hacks and tips, it’s more like having a helpful fellow traveler on your journey, one who gently shows you how to critically examine which new paths may be worth exploring. Do yourself a favor and don’t opt out of reading this book.”

—Paul Jarvis, author of Company of One

“I emerged from Adventures in Opting Out feeling courageous. In these pages, Cait Flanders does more than simply inspire us to live with more depth and authenticity. She gives us rare, practical guidance on reaching beyond outworn cultural norms to discover—and to follow—the adventure that is ours alone to create.”

—Lyanda Lynn Haupt, author of Mozart’s Starling

“Through stories and metaphors, Cait will show you how to opt into an intentional life.
The prose reads like a long letter from a good friend. The book is unique and full of wisdom.
I highly recommend Adventures in Opting Out!

—Tammy Strobel, author of You Can Buy Happiness (and It’s Cheap)