A Home is Meant to Be Lived In, Not Looked At

March 27, 2017

A Home is Meant to Be Lived In, Not Looked At

Last Monday, I found myself at the front of a convoy of vehicles travelling to Squamish. I was driving my friends’ truck filled with furniture, a few boxes, and my bedding and linens. She and her daughter (my “niece”) were behind me, driving my car filled with kitchen supplies and my clothes. My dad was at the back, driving his truck filled with more furniture. We were all heading up the same highway, en route to catch the same ferry that would take us to the same place: my new home.

It was the first day of spring, and the weather truly was on our side. With a week of solid rain behind us and another full week of it ahead, we were gifted a 24-hour pass to clear(ish) skies. The drive up to the ferry terminal was easy, with no traffic or construction or other bumps in the road. Our sail over was smooth; the waters calm. All three vehicles arrived at my place within seconds of one another. And not even 45 minutes after parking, every last item was unloaded from them.

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20 Free and Healthy Ways to Treat Yourself

March 17, 2017

20 Free and Healthy Ways to Treat Yourself
Friends, I can’t thank you enough for your response to Monday’s post. Before I say anything more, if you’re ever tempted to treat yourself as a form of therapy, go back and read the comments. I was so moved by each and every one of them. Thank you for opening up about your own struggles and sharing your stories with us. I am not alone. You are not alone. We are in this together.

I received more email responses to that post than any other I have written before. Along with your stories and support, you shared some of the ways you take care of yourself when times are tough. As a follow-up, I wanted to compile your ideas and share them with everyone who may need them. Here is a list of healthy ways to treat yourself (without buying or binging on anything). xo

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Treating Yourself is Not the Answer

March 13, 2017

Treating Yourself is Not the Answer
Sunday was errand day. Every day feels like errand day, when you’re moving, but Sunday is the big one. I drive to the big box store part of town to pick up all the things I will need in my new home: dish soap, hand soap, cleaning products and laundry detergent. My shower curtain has to be replaced, so I grab something white to brighten up my new-to-me bathroom with the dark tile floors. Into the basket it goes, along with a new plastic liner. I forgot my shopping list at home, which feels like the biggest mistake I could make on a day like this. But I know I wrote down that I also need aluminum foil, so I grab a roll of that too.

As I walk toward the numbered rows of blue cash registers, I pass the seasonal goods. Easter is coming. There is a lot of chocolate on the shelves. Chocolate definitely wasn’t on my list, but I gravitate towards it anyway. My eyes scan dozens of products and eventually settle on the Cadbury section. Creme Eggs and Mini Eggs are dangerous substances, in my world. I can’t help but notice that buying four Creme Eggs is cheaper than buying two. I could eat four Creme Eggs right now, I think. Oh, but the big bag of Mini Eggs looks even better. I nearly salivate at the thought of smelling the sweet vanilla scent that releases from the bag when you open it.

I spend the next three minutes running numbers and making justifications for why I should buy one of these two items. It’s not surprising that the more you buy, the better the deal is. But I know I don’t need a 2 lb. bag of Mini Eggs any more than I need the four Creme Eggs. Still, I imagine buying one, opening it in the car and stuffing my face full, then feeling the temporary high that comes with giving into a craving. The sugar would hit my bloodstream and, with a few beats of the heart, run through my entire body. I realize my eyes are closed, as I’ve been visualizing the experience. When I open them, I see the bag of Mini Eggs is in my hand. I return it to its place on the shelf and walk away.

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