You may remember that I went to FinCon in New Orleans, back in September. FinCon has been organized annually for the past four years, and I’ve travelled to and attended it for the last three. Like any conference, there is always a room full of swag for people to take home. I learned my lesson this year, when I decluttered my place and found I was still holding onto old swag I never used. After that, I knew I didn’t even want to be tempted by swag again, so I avoided it at all costs.
I did bring one thing home, however, which was a copy of Farnoosh Torabi’s newest book When She Makes More. When I first started reading it, I actually wondered why I was even bothering. I’m single, so the only “family” I’m supporting is me, myself and I. But I knew there was a chance I could be a breadwinner one day, so I kept reading – and reading and reading and reading – and I finished the book in less than 48 hours. (Clearly, I enjoyed it.)
At first, what stood out most were some of the racy facts. For example, did you know that women who are the main breadwinners still do at least 2/3 of the housework? Or that men are least likely to cheat when their female partner’s make approximately 3/4 of his salary? And apparently (get ready for this one), the greater the income disparity, the greater the problems with ED (you know what I’m talking about) and reliance on drugs to remedy it. Whoa.
But it wasn’t all dim and grim. There were some exciting facts, too. My favourite was that a 2013 study by the Pew Research Center found millennial women are very close to closing the gender pay gap, relative to other generations. In fact, while we often hear that women still earn just 71 cents for every $1 men earn (and this is true across the board in the U.S.), 18-32-year-old women actually earn 93 cents for every $1 men earn in their same age category!
Anyway, those are just a few of the stats that stood out to me. The book in its entirety is meant to show how both women and men feel when the woman is the breadwinner for her family. I found it fascinating:
“While we might be cool with a female breadwinner on a cognitive level, unconsciously our brain still expects a man in that role. This dissonance affects attraction, since both men and women use the unconscious brain to determine whether or not someone of the opposite sex is good-looking, and what assets that person would bring to a relationship, before fine-tuning it with their thinking, conscious brain. In that situation, a woman’s brain would initially signal that a man who doesn’t make as much money as she does would be less appealing, and the man’s brain would signal that a woman who makes more could be threatening because he wouldn’t have his role as alpha provider.”
The book is also filled with advice for couples in this situation, but I found most of it would be useful for any couple – no matter who makes more money. When I was done reading the book, I paid it forward and mailed my copy to a girlfriend in San Francisco… and now I want to giveaway 2 copies to you!
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Since the content is universal, the “Freebie Friday: When She Makes More” giveaway is open to readers worldwide. This giveaway starts on Friday, November 7th at 12:00 a.m. PST and ends on Thursday, November 13th at 12:00 a.m. PST. The winner will be announced in a blog post on Friday, November 14th at 4:00am PST. Good luck!
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