The first thing you’re going to notice about this post is that my budget isn’t actually included in it; that’s partially because I’ve had to change it numerous times already this month, but it’s also because I’m starting to feel a little apprehensive about posting my numbers here. Let me explain why.
In my opinion, one of the biggest reasons people don’t like to talk about money and/or their personal financial situation is because they fear being judged by others. I’ve laid my numbers out for all to see for so many months now, in hopes that doing so would help others feel more comfortable talking about their own. But the number of anonymous comments and judgmental emails I’ve received lately has made me question whether or not I should continue to be so honest about what I do with my money.
Don’t get me wrong – I love when people ask questions about my budget. How are my groceries so cheap? That’s easy to answer (and they’re not cheap in my opinion, hehe). Why is my Internet bill so low? I’m on a promotion with TELUS that’s set to expire any day now. And a couple weeks ago, I straight up just asked you all for advice on what I should do with the very little amount of money I’ll be able to save these next few months. I seriously love talking numbers and getting your input!
But I don’t love receiving comments and emails from people who are judgmental about my decisions. This is what makes personal finance so personal: everyone’s budgets look different. We all live in different cities for different reasons, we all value spending money on different things… and I don’t believe there’s any one right way to manage our finances. You have to do whatever helps you live your best life; one where you can live comfortably, save what you can afford to save and enjoy what’s leftover in whatever way you please.
Comments and emails like the ones I’ve been receiving lately are only validating other people’s concerns – that we should be scared to talk about money because people will judge us – and I refuse to accept that. I have always wanted Blonde on a Budget to be a safe place for us to talk about our financial situations. I value the conversations we have here. I love that sharing my numbers leads to other people sharing theirs with me (and other readers), and that we always share our highs and lows, celebrate our successes and cheer each other on.
So, despite what a few people think about what I do with my finances, I won’t stop sharing my budgets. For February, I think I’ll just wait until the end of the month to post my final numbers. And I’ll post them each month going forward, like none of this happened. I want to continue to keep our conversations going, as I can only hope that some of you value them as much as I do. With time, I hope we can all have a part in taking some of the taboo out of the topic of money… because the more we talk about it, and share both our failures and successes, the more we can learn from one another – it should be that easy.
Goals for this month:
- Celebrate Baby Sis’ 20th birthday!
- Help host a bridal shower! And finish planning the bachelorette party!
- File my taxes
- Nix my daily chocolate habit that formed at Christmas (seriously…)
- Finally buy/hang some shelves in my bathroom
What do you have planned for this month?