An Update from the West Coast

Well, I have officially been back on the West Coast for a week… and, I have to say, it’s good to be home. Apparently this is the most obvious statement I could make, based on the number of emails I got over the weekend from friends and fellow bloggers who mentioned that I look happy/at peace being back here. It helps that the sun’s been out everyday, with temps as high as 24°C. (Sorry to hear it’s snowing in Toronto… oh wait, I’m really not.)

To give you a quick update, a lot has happened in the last week. I left Toronto last Tuesday and, after a quick layover in Calgary, landed in Victoria around 11pm. In the 40 hours that followed, I slept (not much), went for a quick hike, put 6 months of insurance on my car, ran a million errands, saw friends and family, then came over to Vancouver to begin my apartment hunt. I’ve been crashing with a friend since Thursday, while apartment hunting and getting settled at my new co-working space.

It’s basically been go go go since I’ve been back. One minute, I’m loving the spontaneity that comes with having no real ties here. When apartments are ready to be viewed, I can go see them immediately. When friends ask me to hangout, I can say yes and leave on a whim. And then there are the new faces who have surprised me at coffee shops, taken me on walking tours of the city (the pic above is from the New Westminster Quay), and invited me out to lunches. Everything feels new here, which has me constantly guessing and smiling.

But then I have moments where all I want to do is scream or cry out of frustration. I want to find an apartment! I want to setup a home and start my life. The fact that my aunt was recently diagnosed with cancer (again) probably doesn’t help, because it’s stirred up a number of emotions, all of which have left me feeling incredibly homesick. I’m so so so excited that she is coming over here for work next week, so I can spend some quality time with her.

I also feel like I’m putting people out, by crashing with them. Even though no one has done anything to make me feel that way, I have a tendency to feel guilty about taking up space in people’s homes. I feel like I’m disrupting routines and, even though the offers to stay with people keep coming in, there is a part of me that feels bad for accepting. I guess that’s something I need to get over and just focus on finding a place of my own so I can get out of their way.

The one thing I have had to come to grips with is the fact that I will probably need to wait until May 1st to move into my own apartment. There was a place available for April 1st that I loved, and I did everything I could to try and get it, but the owner had shown it to too many other people before me. I followed up on Monday and he finally got back to me saying he really liked me but had chosen to rent it to someone else, so I had to kiss that one goodbye.

What that means is that, as soon as I secure something for May 1st, I’ll probably move back to Victoria until it’s time to bring my things over. I guess that’s not such a bad thing, since I’ll get to squeeze in more quality time with the fam and my friends. But I’ll be anxiously waiting to get back here…

Anyway, that’s all for me. How’s your week going? :)

  • I’m so sorry to hear about your aunt! And moving can be incredibly tough – it took me so long to find an apartment in San Francisco that I almost gave up. I’m sure you’ll find something great soon and I’m happy to hear that you are more at peace in your new location. Good luck to you as you embrace all these new changes!

    • Thanks, Shannon – for your comment and for sharing your experience. Big changes definitely come with big emotional roller coasters! I’m looking forward to feeling a little more settled, hopefully one day soon.

  • So sorry to hear about your aunt! That’s terrible news. I completely understand where you’re coming from with the apartment situation, because I’m kind of in the same one. I’m house sitting for someone right now, and all of his stuff is still here, so I definitely don’t feel like it’s my own space. Some permanence would be nice!

    Keep looking forward! The right apartment is just around the corner.

    • Thanks, Jordann.

      I’m seeing two places this weekend, both of which I’d be happy to move into – so, fingers crossed one of them likes me!

      How long are you housesitting for?

  • When you come back through Victoria can I be one of the people that visits you in a coffee shop??! All this time and I feel like it’s ludicris we’ve never met! :)

    Also, what part of Vancouver are you looking in? I’d be happy to mention it to some friends just in case they know of anything.

    • Yes, please! I couldn’t agree more. I’ll probably be working from coffee shops, while I’m there, so I’ll keep you informed via Twitter. ;)

      Will email you about housing.

  • Best of luck with the apartment hunt, it can be difficult at times out here. let us know if you want to see our place at all. What areas have You been looking in so far?

  • *hugs* I’m sorry to hear about your aunt, Cait.

    On feeling guilty about “putting your friends out,” I’m the same way. I feel guilty for being a burden even though no one says anything to make me feel that way. You know what helps? Imagine your roles were reverse. Imagine that your friend needed a place to stay instead of you, and you had a spare couch for her. Would you be thinking, “God, I wish she would LEAVE so I can get back to eating ice cream in my birthday suit”? No, you’d think, “I’m so glad I’m able to help my friends like this! And it’s great to have company for a little while!”

    It also helps to think about how you can return the favor in the future. You’ll have your own place soon enough, and you can invite your supportive friends over for dinner or a game night. People love you, and they’re helping because they love you, not because they feel obligated.

    • I’ve been taking your advice and imagining the roles were reversed all weekend… and it has really helped, Katie! I would do anything for the same people who have offered to help me. Thanks for the reminder. <3

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