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March 2016

The True Cost of Wasting Money on Getting Wasted

March 28, 2016


It’s been a year since I last wrote a post about my sobriety. When I read that post now, I can see how uncomfortable I still was with parts of it – namely, the social aspect. I knew life was better without alcohol, and I was a better person when not consuming it, but I still hated some of the questions that came up in social situations. “Are you really never going to drink again?” made me feel like people didn’t believe in me. And “don’t you miss it?” made me feel like people thought I’d made the wrong choice, and then I worried about what they thought of me. Rather than just answer the questions, I felt hurt by them. And after being asked repeatedly for two years, I turned that hurt into a blog post.

Today, I’m happy to report I have a much healthier mindset about it all. I still stand by the message in that post, which was to be mindful about what you say to people who are giving up something they once relied on (whether it’s alcohol, smoking, drugs, even food). But if you asked me those questions today, I wouldn’t be mad. In fact, I’ve even gone from feeling insecure about being able to find a guy who would date a girl who doesn’t drink, to proudly saying upfront with them that “it’s the best decision I’ve ever made”. It’s taken three years for me to get here – and there were some ups and downs in that time – but I’m confident in my decision to live a life without alcohol. There’s no going back now.

I’ve always said that I didn’t quit drinking to save money and that is certainly true. I never cared about the numbers back then and, if I had, it would’ve been the wrong reason to quit. Recently, however, I’ve found myself wondering how much money I wasted on getting wasted. It’s a sunk cost, at this point – not worth worrying about, as I can’t get it back – but I’m still curious, so I ran some numbers.

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Inspiration Has an Expiration Date

March 21, 2016


Hi, friends! I’ve been thinking about you a lot lately. Well, thinking about some of the blog posts I want to write, how I need your help with more ideas for my upcoming adventure (which now includes some travel through the USA!) and wondering what you are up to over there. But I haven’t let myself sit down to finish a post yet, because I’m finally, finally, finally head down in my book proposal – and I’m scared if I take myself away from it for too long, I’ll lose my focus and the whole project will crumble.

If you’ve been on my mailing list for a while, or we’re friends in real life, you know I’ve been talking about this book proposal for months. Unfortunately, that’s basically all I’ve been doing: talking. Talking, brainstorming and trying to figure out exactly what the book was going to be about. There were so many parts of my story that I thought I should include but I couldn’t figure out how. I was trying to combine pieces from multiple puzzles to make one big puzzle and it just didn’t work.

In January, things finally started to become more clear.  Continue Reading…

Why I’m Moving into My Car This Year

March 7, 2016


One of the best and worst things about documenting your life on a blog is that you can read old posts, and reflect on who you were and what was happening in your life at the time you wrote it. I typically avoid reading my old posts, more so because I find that my age shines through them, and my writing was terrible… but sometimes, old posts inspire ideas for new posts – and big life changes.

Exactly two years ago, I shared my vision for what the perfect day would look like in 5 years’ time. If I were to write that post again today, some of it would be the same. I’d be an author, freelance writer and public speaker. I’d have a rescue dog or two. And I’d forever work in jeans and a hoodie.

But the one big difference between what I wanted then and what I want now is my definition of the word “home”. Continue Reading…