If We Were on a Coffee Date…

February 11, 2015

As you’re reading this, I’m likely en route to New York City. I had to wake up at 3:30am today, in order to catch my 7:00am PST flight, and I land at LaGuardia Airport around 5:30pm EST. Remember when I said travelling wasn’t glamorous? Early mornings were included in that statement, haha. Anyway, I wasn’t going to publish a post today, but then I read this fun post on Amanda’s blog and thought I’d copy her format.

If you and I met for coffee today, this is what would happen…

If we were on a coffee date, I’d order a soy latte – or an almond milk latte, if almond milk was on the menu, but it hardly ever is. If I had a sweet tooth, I’d ask for some hazelnut syrup, too. Yes, a soy hazelnut latte is my jam. All other flavours be damned.

If we were on a coffee date, you might learn I’ve been drinking coffee since I was 14 years old. My best friend in high school, Lisa, and I used to come home from school, make a huge pot, fill our mugs with International Delight coffee creamer, and sip our super sweet coffee while we watched teen dramas and soap operas. Those were the super sweet coffee days.

If we were on a coffee date, I’d ask you how your family and friends were. I’d tell you I’m a bit homesick for mine, which isn’t unusual when you’re as close as we are. Then I’d tell you that’s the only reason I’m going home for a week at the end of February. <3

If we were on a coffee date, I’d ask what you’re reading right now. I’d tell you I just finished The Storied Life of A.J. Fikry, which was a beautiful story about a bookstore owner and his family. I’d tell you I don’t normally read a lot of fiction, but that book made me want to read more.

If we were on a coffee date, I’d gush about the fact that my 5-year-old niece is reading on her own now. I’d tell you how, the last time I was in Victoria, she curled up on the couch and read five books to me. It’s a memory I’m going to hold onto for some time.

If we were on a coffee date, and you’d never hung out with me before, you’d probably notice I laugh all the time. Yes, even at my own jokes. I’ve been told it’s infectious, though, so maybe that’s not such a bad thing? If my laugh could make you laugh, that would make me smile.

If we were on a coffee date, you’d probably also notice that I make a lot of offhand remarks. Have you ever noticed how often I put brackets around random statements in my posts? That’s how I talk in real life. I’m not polished or proper, in any way, shape or form. I am polite. But I don’t think I’m very well-spoken.

If we were on a coffee date, I’d tell you this video made my entire week. If Saved by the Bell was on Netflix, I’d be in big trouble. #nostalgia

If we were on a coffee date, I’d tell you that everything about this story warmed my heart.

If we were on a coffee date, I’d tell you how grateful I am for the warm weather we’ve been having this winter. Except for the last few days of solid rain, it’s been overcast and 12°C/54°F for weeks. I’m outside almost every day, and I love it. Now, we just need a little sunshine…

If we were on a coffee date, I’d tell you I’m so unbelievably excited for this trip to NYC. I can’t wait to write with Shannon, hangout with David, explore with Leanne, and have dessert and tea with Nicki and Emily. The energy you feel in NYC is unlike any other city I’ve been to. I can’t get there fast enough.

If we were on a coffee date, I’d end it by thanking you for hanging out with me. I’d tell you it was so nice to see you, and that I hope we can catch up again soon. And I’d probably give you a really big hug. (I’m just warning you now, so you’re ready for it. I’m a hugger.)

What would you say if we had coffee today? :)

  • Kate@GoodnightDebt February 11, 2015 at 5:22 am

    If we were on a coffee date, I would tell you that your niece is a reading rockstar. I’d follow up by asking if you had any professional development book recommendations. I just started a book club at work and I don’t want it to be 1 book and done!

    If we were on a coffee date, I’d keep the lid off my coffee and probably not touch it while we were chatting. I don’t like hot coffee, but I love warm coffee.

    If we were on a coffee date, I would tell you it was so silly to give up coffee with friends. Giving up take out coffee when you are alone, sure! But don’t give up coffee with friends.

    Have fun in New York!

    • Cait Flanders February 18, 2015 at 11:14 am

      I haven’t given much thought to professional development books… have you read any you liked, recently?

      And agreed re: giving up coffee with friends; that was silly of me.

  • Manda | musicalpoem February 11, 2015 at 5:29 am

    I love what you did with this post! I can also vouch for the fact that you’d say a lot of these things in conversation with friends ;)

  • Nicole February 11, 2015 at 5:34 am

    If we were on a coffee date, I’d tell you how glad I was to finally meet you after reading your blog for the last 6 months, because I feel like I already know you and your shopping ban inspired me to start one of my own.

    If we were on a coffee date, I’d want to know which books your niece read to you and probably encourage you to spend more time with her because children grow up in the blink of an eye. I would then tell you about my 19-year-old son whom I couldn’t love more if I tried.

    If we were on a coffee date, I’d want to hear about your favourite places to travel and the places that remain on your bucket list. We would talk about my experiences living in Australia, and travelling back 26 years later for a visit.

    When our coffee date was over, I’d hug you back because I’m a hugger too!

    • Cait Flanders February 18, 2015 at 11:16 am

      My favourite city, so far, has been NYC. I could go there again and again and again. In the next couple years, I’d like to go to Hawaii, the UK and France! There are so many places on my bucket list, but those are the next few places I’d like to go.

      How long did you live in Australia for? What did you love/hate about it?

  • giulia February 11, 2015 at 5:52 am

    Coffee always bit I am on my 6 months of my sport of shopping ban, I buy it from cafes only once per week during my real meetings with friends!

  • Lindsay February 11, 2015 at 6:39 am

    I love this post, it was amazing :) I’m told I’m loud and my laughter is infectious as well! Embrace it girl! I’m very envious of your trip to NYC, it’s on my to do list, but I would have told you if we were on a coffee date, all about my planned trip this summer to eastern Europe. I’d also tell you that I’ve never been a big reader, but this January I started reading every couple of nights and I’m already onto my 3rd book. I have to say that reading definitely makes my life feel more complete.

    PS I would hug you too! I think they are the best things in the world!

    • Cait Flanders February 18, 2015 at 11:17 am

      Woo hoo! Here’s to loud laughs, hehe.

      Where are you going in Europe!? Tell me everything! And which books have you read so far?

  • Candice February 11, 2015 at 6:54 am

    I copied your blog post idea today. Thanks for the inspiration.

  • Halle February 11, 2015 at 7:29 am

    I love this post! I will definitely have to work on my answers for you. Thanks for posting!

  • Bridget February 11, 2015 at 8:54 am

    ohhhh the NYC trip that’s why you’re not text back! ha!

    This was a great post, can’t wait for our next coffee date!

  • Ruth Wilson February 11, 2015 at 8:54 am

    If we had a coffee date- which I have every other Sunday with 3 of my closest friends- I’d bore you with talk of my 18 mos grandson who is perfection. I’d ask about your family and compare notes on books we are reading.
    I’d tell you about my dear sister who just broke her ankle and how I wish we weren’t living so far apart so I could go and play cards or just hang out drinking tea or wine.
    I’d ask about your trip and how when I went to NYC I lost my heart in the NY public library. I still need to go back.
    At the end we would haul out our calendars and see when we could do it again because if you don’t plan it- it will never happen!
    Have a good trip and if you happen to be passing the lions in front of the NYPL tell them I said hi!

    • Cait Flanders February 18, 2015 at 11:20 am

      I gave them a wave for you, Ruth!

  • Stacey February 11, 2015 at 5:11 pm

    I would say Hi it’s so nice to meet you finally. I would say thank you so much! Because of you and Gail I am almost debt free. I would say sorry I had to bring my 4 month old daughter Jennifer but would you like to hold her. I would say have a wonderful trip! I would say lets do this again and give you a big hug too

    • Cait Flanders February 18, 2015 at 11:21 am

      I would tell you to NEVER apologize for bringing your daughter! I’d love to hold her. :)

  • Sarah February 11, 2015 at 11:47 pm

    I love this! Now I want to be on a coffee date with you!

    It’s true. You do laugh a lot. And it is infectious.

  • Mrs. Frugalwoods February 12, 2015 at 4:11 am

    Awww, such a sweet post! I’d love to go on a coffee date with you someday! I’m also a hugger, so that’ll work out just great :). In addition to chatting, I’d probably make you look at photos of Frugal Hound on my phone… because that’s just how I roll. Hope you have a wonderful time in NYC!

    • Cait Flanders February 18, 2015 at 11:21 am

      Haha, and I’d happily look at them!

  • Helen February 12, 2015 at 11:05 am

    Loved this post Cait!

  • Helen February 12, 2015 at 11:06 am

    Ps. I check daily to see if you’ve posted. Its my exciting lunch time /slash/ anytime I dont want to do work, read!

  • Aleksandra Sagan February 12, 2015 at 7:40 pm

    This was such a great post! I may just have to copy it on my blog and keep the trend going.

    If we were on a coffee date, I’d order a latte because I’m a coffee drinking wimp and so far only enjoy caffeine with loads of milk – but no sugar!

    If we were on a coffee date, I’d talk your ear off about how excited I am to fly to California this weekend and get away from the miserable cold in Toronto for awhile.

    If we were on a coffee date, I’d ask you for some book recommendations. I have one book picked out for the plane ride, but I can always use more to read.

    • Cait Flanders February 18, 2015 at 11:22 am

      What kinds of books do you like to read? Actually, better question: tell me 3 books you love!

  • Kristen February 14, 2015 at 7:13 am

    If we went for coffee today, I would order a tea. I don’t like coffee. I would tell you how lovely it is to meet you and how inspiring you are. I think we would end up talking about behaviour change. When you brought up your niece I would talk about my 8 month old one and how she is not yet useful.

    Hope you are having a wonderful time in NY!

  • Isabelle February 15, 2015 at 7:55 am

    If we were on a coffee date, I would tell you how happy I am to meet you and be able to discuss budget strategies with someone who likes that kind of things!
    If we were on a coffee date, I would tell you how I can’t wait to go to Bali next August!
    If we were on a coffee date, I would talk about my beloved godson and how much I love him
    If we were on a coffee date, I would mention how boring work is at the moment but how grateful I am to have a good job.
    If we were on a coffee date, I would share that I’ve recently started exercising again and I hope I can keep doing this for a long time.
    If we were on a coffee date, I would tell you that I am trying to live with less, I don’t buy much stuff at all, but I can’t get rid of my books!
    If we were on a coffee date, I would have a few coffee free with my Starbucks card, a birthday gift that I love! I would even pay for yours since you’re not allowed to spend on coffee!

    • Cait Flanders February 18, 2015 at 11:23 am

      BALI! Ahhh, I’m so excited for you, Isabelle! That’s up there on my list of places to go… have an amazing time. :D

  • Petrish @ Debt Free Martini February 16, 2015 at 4:02 am

    This was so creative and I loved it. You are really talented. Have fun on your trip.

  • Leanne February 19, 2015 at 2:59 pm

    I only just got round to reading this post but if we were on a coffee date I’d ask why the heck are we drinking coffee instead of tea?! haha

    It was so, so wonderful meeting you in NYC and I hope to see you again sooner rather than later x

  • Kathleen O'Malley Celmins February 23, 2015 at 10:12 am

    this post makes me miss you. skype time?