TGIF: Taking a Time Out

May 2, 2014

desk with a view

It’s been quite a week. In some ways, it was extremely uneventful. I haven’t seen any friends, gone out for any meals or done anything particularly exciting… but that’s mostly because my mind has been elsewhere.

There’s a lot on my plate right now. For starters, there are a couple new opportunities I can’t wait to tell you guys about. One I may be able to share as early as next week, and the other may not come to life until this summer. It’s a gift when one project that excites you seems to just fall into place – let alone two. I’m so excited to get started on them both.

But there are only so many hours in a day; this is a challenge I have faced before, but which seems to be a glaring issue for me right now. On top of my full-time job, this blog and any other writing I do on the side, I’m also at a pivotal point in my recovery. Already this week, I’ve sat in waiting rooms a total of 6 times for 6 different appointments – some treatments, a physical for my claim and then x-rays. No matter how much I pray to the car accident gods (a.k.a. do my exercises, etc.), my right hip is just not getting better – and this week, the appointments and the stress from it all consumed me.

For the past few days, I’ve been toying with the idea of taking a little break from writing here. As a blogger, it’s a decision I think most of us find scary. We feel as though “disappearing” for a week or two will make it look like our blogs are dormant, and we worry that people will stop reading. But one of the things that actually helped me decide to take this break was looking at all of the comments on my last few posts and being reminded of the incredible community we’ve built here. You are all so supportive of me, and of one another, that I don’t think I have anything to worry about when I tell you I need a break.

I just need a couple weeks to focus on my recovery, catch up on some other writing and cross a few things off my ever-growing to-do list. You’ll still be able to find me on Other Voices every Sunday, but things will be quiet on this side of the web for a couple weeks. Thank you so much for understanding, friends. xo

The low of my week was just being uncomfortable and feeling frustrated about it.

The high of my week was being gifted the desk you see in the picture above. I let a friend stay with me for a couple months, and one of the things he did to say thank you was give me his old desk. It’s perfect. (And didn’t I just say that a desk was becoming a necessity?)

A blog post I loved was 30 Financial Milestones You Need to Hit By Age 30 by Bridget. The list isn’t as scary as it might sound, but I’d encourage you to print this post and stick it on your fridge.

Let’s say the best money I spent was $28.25 on groceries last night, because I haven’t spent money on anything else this week. How sad, lol.

My plans this weekend include relaxing tonight, going on some sort of epic adventure with my friend Kasey tomorrow (who is in town from Toronto and on the hunt for her first apartment, yay!) and hanging out with my high school mentee on Sunday.

How was your week? What are you up to this weekend?

  • Trista May 2, 2014 at 4:14 am

    Cait, I hope the downtime helps. We will all be here when you get back! I can understand the frustration you’re feeling about your hip. I have a couple injuries from years ago that still bother me quite frequently and I know yours is still rather new.

    I must say you have a beautiful view from your desk. :) I found another love/hate about my apartment today. Parking in my driveway has covered my car windows with salt sea spray and it is making it hard to see. But, being so close to the oceans means I can see icebergs from my kitchen window. :)

    My week has been pretty uneventful. I went out to supper with the bf last night. It was paid almost entirely by a free appetizer coupon and the gift card my office gave me for Administrative Professionals day last week. It was nice to go out and not be concerned about spending money. Other than that I’ve spend my evenings watching netflix on my laptop. I still haven’t gotten a blu-ray player to connect to my tv so I can watch it there. I just can’t justify it yet.

    I don’t really have any plans this weekend. Tonight I’ll stop by Walmart to pick up a few sale items and then I’ll have a quiet night at home by myself. Tomorrow the bf will be over. Sunday I might take myself out to see The Other Woman. I haven’t quite decided yet. Other than that there will be some cleaning, cooking and maybe a little baking. Next weekend is going to be busy so I’ve got to take it easy this weekend.

    • Cait Flanders May 2, 2014 at 6:19 pm

      ICEBERGS!? Can you take a pic of this and email me sometime, Trista? I’d LOVE to see that! And what are you watching on Netflix right now?

      • Trista May 4, 2014 at 4:21 pm

        I took some iceberg pictures for you today. I emailed them a little while ago.

        Right now I’m watching “Suits” on Netflix. It’s pretty funny. I’m also watching “Mad Men”.

  • Charlotte May 2, 2014 at 4:35 am

    No need to worry, Cait, we’ll be here when you’re back and rested! It’s so important to take time for yourself and to focus on your health/recovery. I had a pretty awesome week and have plans for a great weekend too! Looking forward to it :)

    • Cait Flanders May 2, 2014 at 6:19 pm

      So nice to hear you had a good week/plans for this weekend! Enjoy :)

  • L May 2, 2014 at 5:51 am

    I hope this break helps you focus and recover :) I look forward to reading again when you are feeling up to posting!

    • Cait Flanders May 2, 2014 at 6:20 pm

      Thanks, L! Shouldn’t be long :)

  • J @BoyfriendIsABanker May 2, 2014 at 6:55 am

    I’m glad you’re taking a break to re-charge your batteries, sometimes it’s just necessary. One mentor of mine told me, ‘sometimes you have to take a step back to get ahead’ and it has just stuck with me and is so honest. Also, it sounds like you have some pretty exciting things coming your way in the next handful of weeks/months! How exciting!! That desk and view are beautiful too!

  • Shoeaholicnomore May 2, 2014 at 6:58 am

    I hope you get to enjoy part of the time you are on your “break”. You deserve some down time once in a while :)

    • Cait Flanders May 2, 2014 at 6:21 pm

      Thanks! We all do <3

  • Nadia May 2, 2014 at 7:16 am

    Cait the most important thing you can do is take care of yourself! If it means taking a break then that’s what you should do. We’ll still be here!

    • Cait Flanders May 2, 2014 at 6:21 pm

      Thanks, Nadia!

  • Kassandra May 2, 2014 at 7:53 am

    You need to always put yourself and health first so I’m glad you’re doing that by taking a small break from here. You have a strong online presence and you have nothing to fear and people will continue to look out for your posts. It sounds like you have new and exciting things happening for you and that’s great! Focus on what you feel matters to you right now.

    • Cait Flanders May 2, 2014 at 6:22 pm

      Thanks, Kassandra! That’s a good way of putting it. Blogging is always important, but I really need to just take a few days off, then catch up on some other projects, and try to come back refreshed. :)

  • Bridget May 2, 2014 at 8:55 am

    As long as you’re not taking a break from texting me ;)

    • Cait Flanders May 2, 2014 at 11:00 am

      Never ever!

  • Sara Hamil @ They Call it Gumption May 2, 2014 at 9:15 am

    Sometimes taking a break from blogging is the best decision you can make for yourself and your blog! I’m not nearly as consistent as you are but I’ve always found that stepping away to focus on other things has given me the ability to return when it makes sense feeling rejuvenated.

    Do right by you, miss! <3

    • Cait Flanders May 2, 2014 at 6:23 pm

      Thanks, lady! Can’t imagine I’ll be gone long, but not feeling the pressure to write will be nice.

  • Morgaine May 2, 2014 at 9:49 am

    I took a long blog break when I was wedding planning, I just couldn’t find time to focus on anything else since I was DIY’ing a lot of projects (also, I may have spent some money that I wouldn’t have wanted to admit to). But when that was done I came back to blogging and its even better than when I left off. We will all be here for you when you get back, your health is most important! (Also, LOVE the view from your desk!)

    • Cait Flanders May 2, 2014 at 6:23 pm

      Oh, I can imagine taking a break during a time like that – you’d need to!

      And I have to agree with you re: the view. I’m slightly obsessed. <3

  • Rob May 2, 2014 at 9:53 am

    “I don’t think I have anything to worry about when I tell you I need a break.”

    Of course you don’t Cait. Everyone needs to take a sabbatical from their work stresses from time to time, to recharge the batteries, and most probably, while you are away, you will be coming up with some dandy new material to share with us upon your return here. So no worries whatsoever, enjoy your break and devote your limited time and energy to those things taking higher priority at the moment.

    As for me, well my neighbour and I are using his wood splitter today to split up all the logs that we stacked up in my back yard from the damaged large maple trees that we sawed down after our past vicious Christmas ice storm here in Toronto. At least, after we finish, my neighbour will then have lots of fire wood for his cottage.

    These days I seem to working harder in retirement than I did when I was still employed. TGIF! :-)

    • Cait Flanders May 2, 2014 at 6:25 pm

      Haha, I’m already coming up with blog post ideas… of course, that’s the way it goes, eh? But I’m jotting them down and saving them for later, because I will most certainly be back.

      Yes, retirement doesn’t seem to equal “no work” eh? It’s just different work. Don’t hurt yourself!

      • Rob May 2, 2014 at 6:30 pm

        Too late! I ache all over. I’ve used muscles today that I haven’t used in awhile! :-)

  • Leigh May 2, 2014 at 10:25 am

    That is a beautiful desk and absolutely gorgeous view!! Thank you for sharing the picture with us. :)

    Enjoy your break! It sounds much needed. I’ll still be going through your old posts for inspiration – thank you so much for that! I’ve paid off $2000 of my $10,000 credit card in the past two months and it just doesn’t feel like enough. You, and many other PF bloggers, really help me motivated.

    This weekend, the boyfriend’s best friend is having an engagement party at a restaurant where the average meal for two is over $200!!! Eeep! Good thing the invite says appetizers ;) I’ll also be getting my “baby” student loan down to under $5000! I love hitting those kind of milestones.

    • Cait Flanders May 2, 2014 at 6:27 pm

      Leigh, you’re making incredible progress on your credit card debt! Think about it this way: that’s $1,000/month on average, which means you could potentially wipe it out in 10 months or less. Maybe you could even push yourself and make it a goal to wipe it out by December 31st? Start 2015 off right? I’ll be cheering for you!

      Enjoy your appetizer ;)

    • Cait Flanders May 2, 2014 at 6:27 pm

      (Also, I’m a dork and feel the need to say that my legal first name is actually Leigh… and it always feels weird to type it out, when talking to someone else!)

  • Dayle May 2, 2014 at 10:34 am


    This week was good but tiring! I started at 5am 4/5 days this week and it is killer! I’ve had an afternoon nap every day to make up for my lost sleep!

    Tonight we’re going over to my Bro/Sil’s house to hang out with them + my sister and her bf. My parents will be so proud, the 3 of us all getting along and stuff, and spending time together…by choice! lol

    Tomorrow there is Maplefest in Bowmanville so we may check that out weather permitting…we may take a drive up to Vaughan Mills if it’s raining to go to Bass Pro, and in the evening we’re having friends of bf’s over for a BBQ dinner.

    He has the weekend off and so do I so we’re looking forward to sleeping in!

    Enjoy your much-deserved break, if you can call it that, I’ll be looking forward to your next post :-)


    • Cait Flanders May 2, 2014 at 11:00 am

      If you see our friend Gail tomorrow, please go over and tell her I say hello! :)

      • Dayle May 5, 2014 at 5:44 am

        :) No Gail sightings…but she is in Brighton whereas I was in Bowmanville.

        • Cait Flanders May 5, 2014 at 7:03 am

          Oh, I know… but I think you mentioned you’d seen her there once before!?

  • Jordann May 2, 2014 at 11:04 am

    As sad as I am that you are taking a break, I totally understand! I’ve often felt like I needed a break, like the blog just needed to be put on the back burner for awhile while other life events were attended to.

    We’ll still be here when you get back!

    • Cait Flanders May 2, 2014 at 6:29 pm

      I was so nervous to take a break, but I couldn’t figure out why. Because I won’t get a certain number of pageviews? Does that really matter? Nope. I’d rather walk away and come back refreshed than keep pushing myself when I don’t have time to dedicate to it. (But knowing me, I’ll be back sooner than later, lol.)

  • Alicia @ Financial Diffraction May 2, 2014 at 11:34 am

    It’s totally understandable. You’re one busy lady with a lot of commitments, and something has to give at some point.

    From someone not from around the mountains – your view is astounding!

    • Cait Flanders May 2, 2014 at 7:03 pm

      Oh, it’s beautiful – I absolutely love it here. :)

  • E.M. May 2, 2014 at 1:21 pm

    I hope you are able to rest and find time to focus on yourself! It is a bit daunting to take breaks from blogging, but you have to put your own needs first. I love that view, too, very beautiful!

    • Cait Flanders May 2, 2014 at 7:04 pm

      Thanks, E.M.!

  • Maggie May 3, 2014 at 5:58 am

    I hope your time off refreshes you and you recover quickly! I’ve only been reading for a few weeks now so I’ve gone to the very beginning of your blog to catch up…and on that note I really appreciate your willingness to share your financial journey so publicly, it’s helping me to face mine.
    Good luck!

    • Cait Flanders May 5, 2014 at 6:59 am

      It’s always cool/scary to hear when someone has gone back to the beginning… I was such a different person back then! But I’m grateful for your comment, and am happy to hear you’ve enjoyed going through my posts. Thanks, Maggie :)

  • Shannon May 3, 2014 at 6:02 am

    Hi Cait,

    Enjoy your break! I look forward to reading once you feel rested :)

    • Cait Flanders May 5, 2014 at 6:59 am

      Thanks, Shannon!

  • Amy May 4, 2014 at 7:09 pm

    Your health comes first. If you are ill you won’t be able to write for anyone – paid or free.
    Take care of yourself first.

    We will all be here when you have time to write for the blog again.

    – Amy

    • Cait Flanders May 5, 2014 at 6:59 am

      Thanks, Amy. :)

  • Catherine May 5, 2014 at 6:20 am

    Good for you Cait, I know it wasn’t an easy decision but I’m sure it will be worth it. The minute blogging becomes more stressful than it should be is an indicator that you need to step back. We’ll all be here ;)

    • Cait Flanders May 5, 2014 at 7:02 am

      Thanks, Catherine. :)

  • Leanne May 7, 2014 at 5:33 am

    I totally relate to the blogging break thing, I’d already planned to take time out this week but it kind of spilled into last week a bit as well… sometimes all we really need is a break to shake things up! x

  • Rose May 8, 2014 at 6:29 pm

    Hi cate! Had an interesting connection the other day. My second cousin posted a link to your blog…turns out she is your uncle Johns partner…. I’ve known John forever. It is a small world. I rarely post but always look forward to your posts with my breakfast!

    • Cait Flanders May 16, 2014 at 11:20 pm

      That’s crazy, Rose! And so cool. Are you on the island? :)

  • Anne @ Unique Gifter May 9, 2014 at 7:59 am

    Isn’t it amazing how these things that we create end up stressing us out sometimes (our sites)? So much of it is self-induced, too. Forget to post for a bit… and there’s still traffic, still people to talk to on twitter, etc. etc.
    Enjoy your break and enjoy your new desk!

  • Jessica Moorhouse May 10, 2014 at 8:28 pm

    Feel better Cait! And man that’s one awesome view.

  • J. Money May 16, 2014 at 4:01 am

    We love you, friend!! Of course we’ll still be here to give you e-hugs when you’re back :) Will keep your in our thoughts in the meantime. Great view from that desk!!