I’m Moving… (Yes, Again)

September 25, 2013

Oh my gosh, I was really hoping I wouldn’t have to write this post. All of my fingers and toes were crossed. I think I even prayed for karma to be on my side. But… it’s true. I’m moving again.

Let’s backtrack a bit here.

In May, I moved over to Vancouver (New Westminster, to be more specific) and into a beautiful one-bedroom condo. Seriously, it was spacious, approx. 10 years old and exactly my style. The only thing I didn’t love about it was that it was on the ground floor, but I was willing to overlook that fact because it was so “me”.

In late July, just a few days after my accident, I was relaxing on the couch when I noticed that a man was standing on my patio staring at me; this is basically every single girl who lives alone’s worst nightmare. So, when an old friend from high school offered to be roommates and asked me to move into his two-bedroom apartment, I happily agreed.

With the help of family and friends, I moved into my new apartment on August 31st. Unlike my last place, I decided I wanted to be fully unpacked with all cardboard taken out within a week. I bought a new dresser, got my new room all setup, and finally felt safe again knowing my roommate was just down the hall.

Then, on September 5th, my roommate told me he wanted to move out. We talked about why, got into a bit of an argument, and he apologized and said we could “stay a while longer”. I didn’t feel good about that answer (trust your gut, friends), but I really didn’t want to move again so I hoped he meant it.

Last night, he gave me official notice. He’s moving out October 31st, which means I’m moving out October 31st. And if I want my dad’s help (which I do – please help me, Dad!), I actually need to move by October 6th. I guess I’ve come to grips with the fact that this is my reality, but I’m stressed because:

  • I’ve moved 5 times in the last 12 months
  • I’m pretty sure my family/friends are sick of helping me move (I know my brother is)
  • I have zero interest in looking for a new place
  • I don’t want to pack/unpack again
  • the entire process is totally draining, and
  • moving is freaking expensive!

I’m also angry and upset that my move into his apartment (just 25 days ago!) was not only a waste of time but a total waste of money… :*(

The only silver lining I can see is that it gives me the option to potentially move to another suburb (Port Moody) that I fell in love with this summer. (And, from what I can see, there are some nice places available there right now.) But that means I could potentially be paying rent twice in October and will have to fork out another security deposit.

…just when I thought I had my budget under control…

Flickr: traveller2020

  • Dayle September 25, 2013 at 4:12 am

    You have definitely had some tough luck in this area … but just remember everything happens for a reason, and hopefully you will love your new place that much more! (and get to stay for awhile!)

    Sending positive vibes for a quick/easy/inexpensive apartment search and move!


    • Cait September 26, 2013 at 3:55 am

      Thanks, Dayle! Appreciate it.

  • Beth September 25, 2013 at 4:21 am

    As a fellow singleton, I totally get the safety angle. I lived on the ground floor once in university and hated it. I’ve also been forced out of an apartment for health and safety reasons.

    The only advice I can offer is this: take a deep breath — this is what emergency funds are for. Having an emergency fund, no debt, and people who were willing to help me when I needed it most took a lot of the stress out of the situation. It was still stressful, but I’d wager once you’re settled into a nice, new safe place you’ll find it was worth the hassle.

    Just keep picturing yourself relaxing in that nice new place :) Good luck with the move!

    • Cait September 26, 2013 at 3:56 am

      I’m trying to do exactly that: picture life in a new building. Thanks, Beth!

  • catherine September 25, 2013 at 4:33 am

    This sucks dude! I hope you fond what you’re looking for and if you’re lookong for an amazing doctor in Port Moody let me know since I know one! He’s a GP who recently moved there (from Hali) to be with his wifes side of the fam and their young son!

    • Cait September 26, 2013 at 3:57 am

      Ooo, thanks! I need to keep seeing the same clinic doc in NW until my accident is over, but I could potentially need a new family doc! Will bug you when I’m ready for that :)

  • E.M. September 25, 2013 at 5:12 am

    I can’t blame you at all for wanting to room with someone else. I would be scared out of my mind after that, too. As it was, when I lived with my parents (who are both sound sleepers), I’d wake up at the slightest noise. That’s so horrible you’re finding yourself in this situation again; your roommate should have thought about this before inviting you! I hope you find something amazing at least, seems like you might!

    • Cait September 26, 2013 at 3:58 am

      I’m not normally a light sleeper, but that incident definitely changed my sleeping patterns. Thanks, E.M.

  • Jordann @ My Alternate Life September 25, 2013 at 5:32 am

    Awww I’m so sad that you have to go through this again. :(

    Just keep in mind that, eventually, you WILL end up some place that you can stay long term, and you WILL be able to put down roots. Unfortunately, now doesn’t seem to be that time just yet.

    • Cait September 26, 2013 at 3:58 am

      It’ll happen soon. Thanks, Jordann :)

  • Amanda September 25, 2013 at 5:58 am

    Oh wow. This is brutal. I thought I saw on Twitter last night that you were moving again, but I thought it was a joke or an old post or something.

    I contemplated moving after my boyfriend and I broke up, for a few reasons, but whenever I’d open the rental listings I’d get stressed out and overwhelmed thinking about all the hassle moving includes. I can’t imagine how you feel about it!!

    I am wondering though, do you not have leases at any of these places? I’ve always had to sign 1-year leases initially, and then give 2 months notice to move out.

    • Cait September 26, 2013 at 4:01 am

      In BC, you only have to give 30 days’ notice. I had a 6-month lease at my last place, but the landlord let me out of it based on what happened (plus she found a new tenant). But there’s no lease at the new place, because my roommate has lived here for 1.5 years already.

  • psychsarah September 25, 2013 at 6:31 am

    What an ordeal! Sorry you’re going through this. I hated moving around all the time when I was younger. We had terrible luck with both roommates and landlords (e.g., the university bought our building 2 months after we moved and made it very difficult to live there, because they couldn’t officially kick us out because we had a lease, but they clearly wanted the tenants out so that they could renovate and pack it full of students). I feel like we used up more than our fair share of “friend moving karma” in that phase of our lives. :( When we bought our first home, we both felt so relieved that as long as we paid our mortgage/taxes (a given-we never got evicted for non-payment, just a rash of weird circumstances), no one could make us leave if we didn’t choose to!! I hope the next place you find is a better fit for as long as you want to be there. Hugs to you-moving is exhausting!

    • Cait September 26, 2013 at 4:23 am

      Oh my gosh, you have no idea how much I wish I could just BUY right now! In my dreams… but I’m definitely craving that amount of stability. Thanks, Sarah.

  • Sunny September 25, 2013 at 6:46 am

    ARGHH!! How frustrating. Well one thing you can say is your life is not dull.

    • Cait September 26, 2013 at 4:23 am

      LOL, that it is not.

  • Bridget September 25, 2013 at 7:15 am

    ughhh that’s BS. What a lousy friend!

    Maybe we can optimistically assume it’s because the universe has something much better for you? =)

    I’d help you move!

    • Cait September 26, 2013 at 4:23 am

      Here’s hoping! Thanks, B :)

  • Kali @CommonSenseMillennial September 25, 2013 at 7:20 am

    I’m so sorry you have to deal with such a rough situation! Sending positive thoughts and vibes your way. I think you’re doing the right thing by looking for the good in the situation – keep doing that and keep your head up :)

    • Cait September 26, 2013 at 4:26 am

      Thanks, Kali!

  • Sara Hamil @ They Call it Gumption September 25, 2013 at 7:23 am

    UGH! Cait, that sucks SO much! I’m sorry to hear that you have to go through all of this AGAIN. Not that it’s my place to dump all over your friend but that’s such a jerky thing for him to do to you :( I hope you’re able to find a quick, desirable and more permanent solution soon! Sending lots of good vibes!

    • Cait September 26, 2013 at 4:27 am

      No, it’s your place, haha. Thanks, Sara!

  • Manda September 25, 2013 at 7:36 am

    Oh my God, this sucks. Moving is far from my favorite thing to do and now you have to do it all over again! Well, if nothing else, at least you got out of a potentially bad situation before it actually got bad, right? And at least you do have family and friends to help you move… even if they might be sick of doing so. :)

    • Cait September 26, 2013 at 4:28 am

      I can’t even believe my parents are willing to come over from Victoria and help me do this all over again. And friends too. Feeling lucky. <3

  • Leanne September 25, 2013 at 8:09 am

    Is there anyway you can stay in the apartment & find someone to take his room instead of you moving all over again? Pretty sucky of him to invite you to move in then spring this on you :(

    • Cait September 26, 2013 at 4:29 am

      I don’t really know anyone here and I don’t want to live with a stranger. :S

  • Gillian September 25, 2013 at 8:18 am

    Ugh. That totally sucks!! But at least now you get to move somewhere that you might like much better! Good luck with the move.

    • Cait September 26, 2013 at 4:29 am

      Thanks, Gillian.

  • kelly September 25, 2013 at 9:45 am

    UGH!! that just blows!! i hope you will have someone else to move in with(?) or are you just going to move at least closer to family/friends…that was a really insensitive move on your room mates part….BUT….good vibes are sent your way..and i guess this is why you had the ER savings fund right? although i am sure it wasn’t so you could keep moving…ok silver lining?? packing and unpacking will make sure you dont carry a TON of stuff….you only keep REALLY want you want to keep right??

    • Cait September 26, 2013 at 4:30 am

      I’m just going to get my own place again. Honestly, I do love living alone, but the idea of having a friend closeby (and saving money too) sounded nice. I’ll just move REALLY high up in a building, haha.

  • eemusings September 25, 2013 at 12:48 pm

    ZOMG Cait. You have got to be kidding. No way to stay there and find a new roommate? :/ I hope you find a new and affordable place, stat. I’d help you move in a heartbeat if I was in Vancouver.

    • Cait September 26, 2013 at 4:30 am

      Thanks, E. <3

  • Shannon-ReadyForZero September 25, 2013 at 1:36 pm

    There are few things in the world I hate more than moving :(. Good luck and I hope you find something so great that it makes all of this well worth it!

    • Cait September 26, 2013 at 4:31 am

      Thanks, hun! Me too :)

  • Mo' Money Mo' Houses September 25, 2013 at 3:54 pm

    That totally sucks but I’m sure your next move will be in a place that’ll you’ll love and stay for a while. I totally get the moving a lot thing. Having moved 3 times in one year a few years back, I feel your pain!

    • Cait September 26, 2013 at 4:32 am

      I just want to stay somewhere for 1 year. That’s it! I wish I could freaking buy a place, so I’d never have to move again, haha.

  • Taylor September 25, 2013 at 8:31 pm

    Oh MAN! That sucks. I’m moving next week, and you’re right it IS freakin’ expensive. And time consuming. And physically and emotionally draining.

    Hope you can keep your spirits up while you go through this sh!tty rigamarole one more time. It will be worth it once you find “Your” place again.

    Good luck, and good vibes!

    • Cait September 26, 2013 at 4:32 am

      You nailed it, Taylor – it is sooo draining! I can’t wait for this to be over and done with. Thanks! And good luck with your own move.

  • kelly @stayingonbudget September 26, 2013 at 5:02 am

    I am so sorry! The thought of moving anytime soon, let alone 5 times in a year, scares the crap out of me. I hate moving—there is nothing exciting or fun about moving day…nothing!
    Good luck and I hope you find a great place!

    • Cait September 26, 2013 at 7:00 am

      Thanks, Kelly!

  • dawn September 26, 2013 at 5:48 am

    Moving is so stressful, especially when it’s unexpected! Just think of how you’ll be settled in a new place by Christmas and then you can start 2014 in a stable place of your own!

    • Cait September 26, 2013 at 7:01 am

      That’s exactly what I keep daydreaming of! How did you know? :)

  • Tara @ Streets Ahead Living September 26, 2013 at 6:48 pm

    I try to stay positive about these things so I know this will work out for you! I know how stressful moving can be. I’ve never moved that many times in a year but I moved every year from 1999 to 2010 so I feel you for that need for just being home.

    I know your next place will be AMAZING. :) Good luck with the move!

    • Cait September 27, 2013 at 7:02 am

      Thanks, Tara! And that’s a lot of moves in 10 years… I plan on staying in the new place until the day I buy, haha.

  • martha September 28, 2013 at 2:17 pm

    That’s a total bummer but hopefully the 6th time is the charm? :) I know its a bad feeling that you worked hard to get out of debt and you are having all these setbacks… I’ve felt like that these past couple of months but to look on the bright side, how much harder would things be if you were still in debt? At least you don’t have that additional worry!

    • Cait September 29, 2013 at 10:51 am

      You’re right, Martha. I have been feeling stressed out about the fact that I just built up a tiny bit of savings and now I need to use it… back to square one, so to speak! But I wouldn’t be able to do this if I had the amount of debt I used to.