The Personal in Personal Finance

September 1, 2011

Earlier this week, I asked Twitter if anyone ever felt like their blog was too personal. I got more @replies to that one tweet than any other before. Some of you said yes, some of you asked if that was even possible, and others… well, I can tell you’re worried about how much of your dirty laundry you’re hanging out to dry. ;)

The reason I asked is because I don’t think that my blog is personal enough. I don’t talk much about my family, my friends, or my cute-as-heck dogs. It’s not often that I share my emotions (other than the joys of paying down debt). And I never even really tell you guys if/when I’ve had a bad day. I have been trying to figure out why… and I’ve narrowed it down to two reasons.

  1. I’m boring. Ok, I don’t think that’s entirely true… but let’s be honest – other than work/school, I don’t have a lot going on! Especially since I’m putting so much energy into paying down debt. And who cares about work/school? You guys don’t wanna hear about that! :P
  2. I don’t have a boyfriend/fiance/husband to gush about. I’m quite happy being single but so many of my favourite bloggers have a partner in their life. This opens up so many more discussions, including: buying homes, renovating, having kids, and, overall, deciding on your financial future and working on it together.

Now that I’ve figured out why I don’t have anything interesting to talk about, I’m left wondering where to go from here… Part of writing a personal blog is sharing anything and everything that you’re feeling. So, am I too insecure to get into the nitty gritty details? Or am I just worried you’ll read about my boring life, yawn, and never come back again? What’s holding me back?

I don’t have an answer yet… but I can tell you this: It’s about to get real.

  • krystalatwork September 1, 2011 at 8:53 pm

    The best part about the personal finance community is getting to know the bloggers behind the blogs. :) Now, I’m lucky enough to know you in real life, but I can’t wait to read what you write about!

    • LC September 2, 2011 at 5:46 am

      Ha, it could be as boring as this is what I ate today… but I don’t care. I want BOAB to be my personal diary.

  • the broke sensualist September 2, 2011 at 3:22 am

    I understand where you’re coming from. I feel like I’ve been quite personal in my details and I’m sure if any of my non-PF friends read this, would say: “Hey, that’s so [insert real name]’s voice!”

    Ultimately, it’s up to you to reveal parts of you to us and that takes time. It took a while for me.

    I’m looking forward to reading what you have to say. :)

    • LC September 2, 2011 at 5:48 am

      Yea, I’ve had real-life friends (@cupcakesncash) find me before and say the same thing… “Are you Blonde on a Budget!?” haha. But that’s ok. As long as I’m not posting things that I could get me in huge trouble, I think I’ll be fine! Thanks :)

  • Fabulously frugirl September 2, 2011 at 3:46 am

    I’m so looking forward to reading your mire personal posts :) even though I love reading all your current posts, too.

    I recently have started writing more personal posts. I was wary at first, because the more personal sonething is, the more likely it’s going to involve peope in my “real life”, and those peopleay not care as much about how certain situations affect my personal finance life.

    • LC September 2, 2011 at 5:49 am

      Hmm, good way of putting it. That made me think of a future post, haha… thanks, girl :)

      • fabulouslyfrugirl September 2, 2011 at 5:38 pm

        OMG. I first commented on this from my iPod and I can’t believe how many typos there are (touch screens….)! Oops!

        Now that you mention it, I think this warrants a post on its own, as well. Thanks for the inspiration for a post!

        • LC September 8, 2011 at 7:55 am

          Hahaha… I hate finding mistakes after I’ve hit submit!

  • Travis Pizel (@DebtChronicles) September 2, 2011 at 4:50 am

    Hey LC, I don’t think you need to worry about whether your interesting or boring….I think of my blog as basically a diary (although a public one). I use it more as a therapeutic medium to express myself…and if others want to read about it, well that’s great. It’s one of those things, I feel, if you write from the heart, and really put yourself into it – you’ll make connections with people and they’ll enjoy reading what you have to say because they are interested in you as a person. In my opinion, that’s exactly what you’ve been doing already. By opening up even more, you provide the opportunity for readers to make an even greater connection with you – which will allow you AND your readers to get much more enjoyment out of your blog.

    Good Luck!

    • LC September 2, 2011 at 5:51 am

      Appreciate your comment, Travis. The only thing I can say is… yes, I’ve been telling people all about my finances, but you know how I know my blog hasn’t been personal enough? I sometimes struggle to come up with post ideas! But then last night’s post took me… hmm… maybe 15 minutes to write? That’s a personal blog. I need to just do more of that. :)

  • Taylor September 2, 2011 at 6:35 am

    Like i said to Eboo, I’ll read whatever you post! I think that the personal in personal finance needs more attention. We are more than just vapid spreadsheets! How we handle our lives and our relationships (friends, coworkers etc) has SO MUCH to do with how we handle our finances. Blog away, dear Blonde. We’re right here with you!

    • LC September 8, 2011 at 7:52 am

      Thank you so much, Taylor. We are definitely all more than spreadsheets, haha… that made me laugh.

  • Matt September 2, 2011 at 8:30 am

    You will start to realize that we all have a lot more in common than you might think. We all go through the same crap in life. We all deal with the same struggles and face the same ups and downs that life has to offer. I say express your personal side and people will love your blog even more.

    • LC September 8, 2011 at 7:52 am

      I guess you’re right. Sometimes it just feels like there’s not much to say when you’re both single and on a budget, haha. Thanks, Matt. :)

  • centsofacountrygirl September 2, 2011 at 11:18 am

    I love real stuff! It seems to me that you’ve got a great connection with your readers already, so you could probably post dirty limericks and people (like me) would gobble them up. Lots of people, like me, are in the same boat (or at least are paddling the same river) as you, so it’s very likely we’ve got similar personal stuff to deal with and seeing that someone is facing a similar problem, opinion or even view that we hadn’t considered, I think is a good thing.

    • LC September 8, 2011 at 7:54 am

      Thanks, CG. :) PS – how’s the house hunting going!?

  • lifeisfullofsunnydays September 3, 2011 at 10:49 am

    Bring on whatever it is you feel like sharing. That’s the joy of ‘personal’ blogs!! I am sure we will all keep reading.

    • LC September 8, 2011 at 8:07 am

      I hope so! Thanks :)

  • Red September 4, 2011 at 6:53 pm

    I am telling ya right now, my favorite PF blogs are the ones that get into the personal side of their lives. I cannot read blogs that are all advice 100% of the time. (Except the big ones, but that’s because I sometimes get good ideas from them.)

    But I was feeling a lot like you when I left my blog for a while. I felt like some people were having a negative reaction to my posts because they didn’t see that I had a life outside of money, that saving money was not the only thing that was on my mind. Since making GRB more personal (blogging about trips, family get-togethers, etc.), I feel a lot better about the blog. It feels like it’s more about ME now than PF, but that’s okay too. If people don’t want to read it, I’ll keep writing for myself. :)

    • LC September 8, 2011 at 8:10 am

      You’re right. It’s all about me! haha… but seriously, I know now that writing a personal post is much easier than writing one where I want to give advice, offer help, etc. I will just try to sneakily add my tips ‘n’ tricks into the personal stuff, without being too obvious… ;)

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